At a time of an unprecedented global pandemic, there is an increase anxiety in interfacing with any medical appointment. For some this means concerns in accessing medical care coming forward, fears of not being able to receive the treatment needed with hospitals over capacity. For others, it reflects a time of concern of contamination of getting COVID if one does not already have it. For a unique group, there is an intersection and special loneliness of accessing medical care in the time of pregnancy and delivery.
With the barriers in place regarding not having partners present for appointments, the first heart beat, and in some cases the birth or time in the hospital afterward, there is a new wave of women navigating these intense moments, throughout their appointments, pregnancies, and births — on their own.
It’s important to find moments of unity in this process, so that even though the mother may be physically separated, she can remain intimately connected with her partner and not be emotionally alone.
Pregnancy can be an intangible time for nonpregnant partners. Going to medical appointments are usually a way to connect through this process. With their presence not currently allowed in most hospitals, here are some ways to keep connected and calm throughout the pregnancy:
Bring your screen.
Using FaceTime with partner during appointments or taking pictures or videos of the baby are ways to connect and visualize the baby that is growing.
Celebrate on your own.
Buy a doppler to hear the heartbeat on your own. Being able to listen to the heartbeat in the comfort of your living room with your partner can make for potentially more intimate experience than being in the hospital or doctor’s office.
Enjoy your own intimacy with the baby,
Try to focus on your thoughts. If you