The Gray Rock Technique for Managing Difficult People

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I was trying to disengage from a relationship with a mindfulness/trauma therapist that had turned Machiavellian. Once I recognized his sociopathy, I knew I needed to disconnect from him. Yet I still had a fiscal obligation to complete a work project with him.

Angie Fadel, founder of Soul Care, is my friend. She introduced me to a technique called “gray rock” that she uses in dealing with difficult people.

This technique is invaluable. Using it, I keep a respectable distance from people whose manipulative behaviors toward me can easily trigger me. These days, going gray rock has enabled me to deal with those in my inner circles who have been acting out in less than healthy ways toward me during this COVID-19 crisis.

How to Go Gray Rock

To practice this technique, start by imagining a gray rock. There’s nothing special or memorable about this rock. Nothing about the rock catches your eye. No crystal specks glistening in the sun, no unique markings. It’s just there. Boring. Dull. Gray.

When you are with someone whose actions toward you can set you off, become this rock. Imagine you are just there—boring, dull, gray. Be the most uninteresting person you can be. Don’t smile or frown. Let your face be expressionless.

People who manipulate others feed on the drama they get when they are able to generate a strong emotion in others. If they can no longer get the response they seek, they often tire and move on.

Gray Rock Pointers

  • Recognize When You Need to Go Gray Rock. In an ideal world, once you recognize a person in your life engages in deceitful behavior, then you
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Are there benefits of cardiac catheterization for stable coronary artery disease? – Harvard Health Blog

One of the main causes of chest pain is a blockage of blood flow down the coronary arteries, the blood vessels that deliver oxygenated blood to our heart muscle to allow it to beat. Depending on how fast the blockage forms, it is labeled as either a stable or unstable blockage.

Unstable blockages occur quickly when an atherosclerotic plaque ruptures within the coronary artery and a clot forms on top of it. The clot, along with the plaque, can obstruct blood flow, deprive heart muscle of oxygen, and lead to a heart attack. This is called an acute coronary syndrome, and it frequently requires a minimally invasive procedure called a cardiac catheterization to diagnose the blockage and then provide options to treat it.

When the buildup of plaque in the coronary arteries occurs gradually, most patients have little to no symptoms. As the blockage expands over time, patients can experience chest pain with activity that usually goes away with rest. When a blockage causes this predictable pattern of chest pain, it is called stable coronary artery disease (CAD). A cardiac catheterization may or may not be needed to manage stable CAD.

Stress tests

A stress test can be used to determine the likelihood of having a coronary artery blockage. The main goal of the test is to see how your heart works during physical activity. Because exercise makes your heart pump harder and faster, an exercise stress test can reveal problems with blood flow within the coronary arteries. Certain types of stress tests can even detect how much of the heart has ischemia, or inadequate blood supply.

A stress test usually involves walking on a treadmill or riding a stationary bike while your blood pressure, heart rate and rhythm, and symptoms are closely monitored. (Some patients are given medications that

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